As a company, we feel that we have a moral obligation to talk about domestic abuse. Domestic abuse is, unfortunately, a factor in many separation and divorce cases and we understand that spreading awareness about the many forms domestic abuse takes, as well as what to do when you are in a dangerous situation, is something that we can help with. That's why, together with ret. Judge David Kennedy, we are creating an eBook that includes how to recognize and safely get help with a domestic abusive situation. The eBook includes a list of 18 questions to ask yourself about your relationship and checklist of what to do to safely remove yourself from a dangerous or unhealthy situation. Even if domestic abuse is not an issue in your relationship, the likelihood that you know someone experiencing domestic abuse is painfully high.
The eBook will be available soon. In the meantime, here are 18 questions you should be asking yourself if you think you may be experiencing abuse in your relationship:
Let’s assume the following scenario, for the sake of discussion. You are in a long-term marriage, which for whatever reason has run its course. You and your spouse have successfully raised your kids, who are grown and gone. The high earning spouse is the principal of a modestly sized small business, with about $1m per year in gross revenues. Additionally, the parties have two family LLC’s that own rental properties. However, the higher earning spouse has reinvested all surplus income (in good years) in the business, and has only a small 401(k).
Jen Waite is a single mom living in Maine. She is moving towards becoming a licensed therapist, specializing in recovery from trauma, and has an upcoming memoir on psychopathy and thriving after trauma. Check out her new blog, www.jenwaite.com.
Going through a divorce can be heartbreaking, frustrating and flat-out devastating. Going through a divorce with a psychopath or narcissist can be all of the above plus a whole other level of hell because you are dealing with a completely unpredictable human being who experiences zero remorse, zero empathy and has zero conscience. But it doesn’t have to be. I learned very quickly while divorcing my own psychopath that certain techniques can make all the difference.