It's obvious that getting divorced is going to have an impact on your kids. Two homes, keeping track of stuff, and dealing with all the emotions that go with that can be really overwhelming. As parents, you're doing everything you can to make this huge transition as smooth as possible for them, so don't overlook one of the places your child spends the most time: school. Here are four common faux pas made by well-meaning parents.
In my mediation practice, I often encounter cases in which very smart, very kind and otherwise rational people find themselves engaged in a divorce-related battle for reasons that would surprise someone who knew them outside of the situation.
Some of these cases involved matters that are truly worth fighting over, including such serious issues as domestic abuse or custody of children where one party is truly not a fit parent. More often, cases get hung up on a particular issue or set of issues and then the ill-feelings generated by that particular issue multiply and infect all of the other areas where the parties might otherwise have been able to come to an amicable agreement.
I have lots of feelings about Mother’s Day. I am always blown away by how emotional I am on this day. Just to be clear, I don’t have a traumatic history with Mother’s Day. I have friends who have lost mothers, whether they have passed away or were never present or simply too mentally unstable and unable to parent. I have friends who’ve adopted. I have friends who can’t get pregnant and desperately want to. I know this day is fraught with emotion. I have a wonderfully supportive, kind, fun, fiercely loyal mother. She’s given me some of the best parts of me. I love her dearly and always try to do something nice for her on Mother’s Day if we’re able to be together. This year was a fun card, wild flowers (purchased not picked!), pedicures followed by lunch with my other siblings. She sent me photos throughout the week as the flowers continued to bloom into different stages. A happy memory yet still, I moped.