This week I was in my car on my way to pick up my mom, and I was listening to the radio coverage on NPR of the aftermath of the Orlando night club shooting. I found myself tearing up listening to the stories of the family members flying in from all over to try to locate their loved ones. The reporter was talking about how many of the victims were from Puerto Rico. When their family members came to take their bodies home, many people gave generous donations – florists donated arrangements for funerals, coffins were discounted, and airlines flew the bodies for free. Something one woman said who was interviewed really pulled at my heart strings. She runs a funeral home, and while they usually hire an outside company to transport the coffin to the airport, her company has been driving the coffin in their own hearse. When asked why, she said, “the world is on its knees right now. We are trying to do anything we can to be supportive of the families and lessen their grief.” It seems like a small gesture, but I’m sure it is a gesture the families will remember.
When my mom got in the car, I told her about the interview. She reminded me of a Mr. Rogers (Fred Rogers from the childrens’ show Mr. Rogers’ Neighborhood) quote:
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, “Always look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.””
While it is impossible to compare a mass shooting incident to something like getting divorced, both are still tragedies. According to The American Institute of Stress, the second highest life stressor you can experience is divorce, which comes just under death of a spouse.
My point is, no matter what kind of negative situation is happening in your life, or someone else’s, remember to look for the helpers. There are ALWAYS people who are willing to help out – and there is nothing wrong with letting them do so.